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1. Ride Off Into The Sunset
In college I took a class called American Western Movies . Give me a break, ok? It was summer session. But this class did teach me something. I learned I wanted to be a cowboy. They are so cool, collect, never play their hand, never look rattled, and they are always confident.
One thing they all did was ride off as the sun set on the horizon after their business was done.
Riding off into the sunset keeps our dignity. When a girl breaks up with me, I will say:
"OK, it was great getting to know you over the past (insert length of time). You take care."
My business is done.
Then, I will figuratively ride off into the sunset. I won t tell her how much I miss her. I won t tell her she made a mistake. I won t call, email or text. I won t mention her to mutual friends. I ll be gone from her life.
Suddenly, it will dawn on the girl that she is not getting her money s worth for this breakup. It is true: people who do the breaking up have an air of power to them. They like being the decision maker, and having the control. But after I walk away like it s no problem, she ll start to think:
"Wow, why isn t he shaken up over this? Did he even care that I broke up with him?"
Or even better, the ever-popular and coveted:
"Did I do the right thing breaking up with him?"
That s when you know you re in business.
Ok I didn't do this. I called back only once and asked for an explanation. I made him a CD before we broke up and I sent it to him. After that all communication is done
2. Apply the Wizard of Oz Effect
Of course, most likely, we are in total pain and anguish after a break up. But, we can t let that show. Remember:
"Pay no mind to that man behind the curtain?"
We can, behind the curtain, cry, complain, b---- , yell, be angry, and hurt. But, we must craft the appearance on the outside of being fine with everything. We need to look happy on the outside to the other person 100% of the time we see them post-breakup.
This also gives the illusion that you might be seeing someone else, or that you ve got other things going on. Of course you re miserable and there s NOTHING going on in your life, but they don t have to know it!
I think he knows how broken up I am and that I just pretend not to be. And I think a part of him gets a kick out that
3. Enact the Verb in Breaking Up
Get rid of all evidence of them. Put it all in a closet, under your bed, or anywhere. I m a sucker for a strand of hair or her shampoo smell left on a pillow after a girl is over. If broken up with, this must go: wash the sheets! Remember in breaking up, think of it like a guillotine make it fast:
On a guillotine, you d rather have a sharp blade slice your head right off than a blunt blade repeatedly cut and cut until finally your head finally fell off.
If it s a break up they want, make it clean for them. It will look good, and it will be easier on you. Flush them right out of your life immediately, and completely.
This I was able to do. He gave me a card for my birthday and he was so sweet and thoughtful. I had to get rid of it because I just thought to myself how can he feel one way and another way two weeks later. The picture of us I mailed to him. I don't know what he will do with it but I know I couldn't throw it away.
4. Don t Look Back
It s hard to accomplish this. We know not to look back, just like we know not to look down when someone says don t look down...but we still look down. But, make it easy on yourself: looking back and saying stuff like:
" Gosh, just two weeks ago, we were out to dinner and she stayed over here and we were so close... "de
...will just make it more painful. You can t look back until it s time to look back when you re truly over it.
I'm getting better at this. That is one of the hardest things to do. But I am getting better
5. Remember You ll Get Over It
The best thing about breaking up is those following mornings you wake up after you ve truly gotten over someone. You re renewed, alive, and ready to see what the world has to offer. Keep pushing through for this feeling, remember all those people you thought you d never get over (you know you ended up getting over them), and as Jim Morrison once crooned: " break on through to the other side! "
Well I don t know about you, but after going through all that, I m inspired to get dumped!
So, do you agree with these rules? Do you have any nightmare breakup stories? If a guy you dumped followed these rules, would you start reconsidering? Would you be annoyed if you dumped a guy and he didn t get upset?
This will be my new mantra. That and the fact that I've been through worse
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